By the end of this week my two youngest kids will be finished school and on to summer vacation. This marks the start of a new season in our family. Some things stay the same, but many will change.
In many ways I like the change. It’s new and different. It’s a chance to make changes. It’s a “reset” time in many ways.
But I’m also aware of another part of my mind. This part suggests to me that things don’t change. This part reminds me of shortcomings. This part is fearful and defeated. This part says, “who are you kidding that you would be so hopeful?”
I see this pattern when I start new things or come to a transition. I have both voices in my head telling me different stories.
I’ve been trying to do three things with the opposing messages lately:
- Noticing that my mind is active and full of thoughts about what is ahead.
- Not giving either the positive or negative voices too much or too little authority.
- Taking action in the direction of change that I want to see happen.
This isn’t a magic bullet. Our minds are going to keep telling us different stories. But when we can approach the stories this way we can stay more open and curious about what our minds are thinking about. We don’t even have to pick a story. We can choose what is helpful.
Then we can move in the direction we want to go.
The movement doesn’t have to be a huge change. Just a directional move that takes us toward the life we want to live.