I had dinner with some good friends the other night. During the conversation we started talking about raising children. My friends are struggling through a particular issue that many parents with young children face. My friends are great parents. They want to do the right thing. And they want what is best for their kids. […]

My husband, Greg, is an endurance athlete. This hasn’t always been the case. A few years ago he was overweight and out of shape. In the last couple of years he’s worked hard to make significant changes in his life. He  has run marathons, competed in 100 mile mountain bike races, and completed an ironman. […]

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” Brené Brown The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are Perfectionism […]

I spent the last two weeks on vacation at the beach in Stone Harbor, NJ. Like many of us my life is very busy. I’m a therapist, mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend, co-worker, etc. Sometimes it can feel so busy that I am tempted to think the kind of vacation I need is one where I […]

Many times my clients’ first response to difficulty is to criticize themselves. I shouldn’t be surprised because often this is my first reaction as well. The problem with the self critical response is that it rarely helps us change. Surprisingly the thing that helps us change the most is often the thing that we are least likely to turn to in […]