Self-Compassion: Mindfulness

Kristin Neff describes the three fundamentals of self-compassion: mindfulness, self-kindness, and common humanity. Developing self-compassion is an important practice for anyone who wants to grow. We can spend a lot of energy judging ourselves. This judgment stunts our growth. The practice of mindfulness, allows us to become aware of what [...]read more

The Inner Ally

I feel insecure about my ability to make small talk at parties, especially when I don’t know most of the other guests. I can feel awkward and struggle to know how to initiate conversations with others. Sometimes even when I am talking to someone I feel self conscious about how [...]read more

Moving Toward Vulnerability

Most of our inner work is learning to relate to ourselves and to others in more healthy ways. We all have a series of unhealthy patterns that we developed over many years. Growing is often recognizing these patterns and learning to change the way we react. Edmund Bourne describes five [...]read more

The 50/50 Invitation to Grow

When I am feeling tension in a relationship my mind naturally brings to my attention all the ways that the other person is contributing to the problems between us. The easier course in a relationship struggle is to blame. We typically think it’s the other person’s fault. In most struggles, [...]read more

Good vs. Bad

It’s easy to make things good vs. bad. We do it with everything from politics and religion to how our children play youth sports. We also do it internally, judging ourselves for our thoughts and feelings. We have a lot of “I shouldn’ts” and “I shoulds” that show up. Dualism [...]read more