“People of accomplishment rarely sit back and let things happen to them. They go out and happen to things.” Leonardo da Vinci I’ve noticed something about my storytelling mind. When I am unsuccessfully trying to change something in my life there is a strange occurrence that takes place. The people [...]read more

My mind gives me a running commentary on my life. All day long, and sometimes all night, it tells me a story about what I am experiencing. It’s like a sports announcer giving play by play on my entire life. I come home to dishes and mess all over the [...]read more

As a little girl I wanted to grow up and become a mom. I know not all women feel that way, but being a mom was part of my hopes and dreams. I couldn’t wait to be mom. My first child was born March 7, 1993. Since that day I [...]read more

I’ve been struck by this idea lately: it can be as uncomfortable to deal with the really positive moments in life as the painful moments. It seems counterintuitive, but it’s true. It can feel vulnerable and scary to let ourselves fully experience joy or connection with others. Sometimes in the [...]read more

Last weekend I was in Alexandria, Virginia for clinical training with Dr. David Schnarch. The topic was Intimacy & Desire and I shared the weekend with a group of therapists from around the country. The appeal of the topic is obvious: every day I see people who want deep connections [...]read more