Grown Up Parenting

One of the fundamental challenges we have as parents is staying connected to our kids as they get older. I’ve noticed that parents of teenagers tend to respond to challenging situations in one of two ways: 1. We can react by trying to control more and keep them from making [...]read more

Vacation & Escape

I spent the last two weeks on vacation at the beach in Stone Harbor, NJ. Like many of us my life is very busy. I’m a therapist, mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend, co-worker, etc. Sometimes it can feel so busy that I am tempted to think the kind of vacation I [...]read more

Understanding Acceptance

The recordings in our minds are often the problem we need to address to grow. We all have to deal with them. Clients that struggle with anxiety often hear the same kind of message: “My anxiety feels like a sign of weakness.” Our image of strength is self-assured, confidant, and [...]read more

When Self Esteem Falls Short

At some point in the last generation or so we decided that having a high self-esteem was the secret to a happy and fulfilled life. It seems logical: if you feel good about who you are and what you are good at everything else falls into place, right? We work hard [...]read more

Self Compassion and Change

Many times my clients’ first response to difficulty is to criticize themselves. I shouldn’t be surprised because often this is my first reaction as well. The problem with the self critical response is that it rarely helps us change. Surprisingly the thing that helps us change the most is often the thing that we are least [...]read more