Bottlers, Brooders, and Those Who Show Up.

In her book Emotional Agility, Susan David defines emotional agility like this: Being aware and accepting all of your emotions, even learning from the most difficult ones. It also means getting beyond conditioned or pre programmed cognitive and emotional responses (your hooks) to live in the moment with a clear [...]read more

The Superbowl, Agility, and Life

I’ve always loved one thing about football in particular: the agility it takes to make a great catch. I love seeing athletes stretch, hustle, and pull down an amazing catch. This one is from Lynn Swann in Superbowl X. Being agile is good for receivers. Agility is also good for [...]read more

The Differentiated, Non-Anxious, Present, Individual (part 3)

Friday night, Greg and I were in a small group that was talking about families. I had a chance to share a little about my family of origin. Not long into the conversation, I was saying something like this: My parents went to everything. They were always there. Sports: they [...]read more

The Differentiated, Non-Anxious, Present, Individual (part 2)

Edwin Friedman said the secret to leadership and life was being differentiated, non-anxious, and present. Being non-anxious is a challenge in our culture. Friedman thought we had epidemic of anxiety. There is no shortage of anxiety today. In our culture, safety feels like the goal. Security is the ultimate desired [...]read more

The Differentiated, Non-Anxious, Present Individual

Edwin Friedman was a 20th century rabbi, therapist, and leadership consultant. He was a pioneer on family systems, and consulted organizations with a therapeutic approach to leading. Friedman said great leaders, in families and life were differentiated, non-anxious, and present. When it comes to our most essential relationships, I’d say [...]read more