Many of us spend a lot of time ruminating. Our minds turn things over again and again. It feels like we can’t turn it off. Olle Wadstrom, author of Quit Ruminating and Brooding, describes two types of ruminating thoughts: Discomforting thoughts: thoughts that trigger worry, doubt, and unpleasant feelings. Comforting thoughts: thoughts that give comfort […]

There’s a big difference between exterior and interior focuses in relationships. You’ll hear some well intentioned exterior relationship advice: go on a date night every week establish a budget and then live by it share your checking account, don’t have individual accounts don’t have a television in the bedroom Some of these things may be […]

This week I heard a lecture from Dr. Jesse Crosby on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Dr. Crosby is the Administrative Director in the Office of Clinical Assessment and Research at the OCD Institute of McLean Hospital and an expert on ACT. Dr. Crosby explained that we often engage in “experiential avoidance” in life. In […]

One of our typical vacation experiences involves the rainy day movie theatre trip. With our family spread from married to middle school, it’s rare that everyone is in one place for a trip to the movies. So when we had a rainy day on vacation we made a day of it. This year, the rainy […]

Every summer, for the last 25 years, I’ve spent summer vacation in Stone Harbor, New Jersey. And for each of those years, I’ve been with my favorite people in the world: my family. Sometimes I put a lot of pressure on myself, and those around me, to have a great vacation. This year, one of […]