My 46 Story
The Story We Live By

I turn 46 on Wednesday. With the coming of 46, I have a narrative in my mind about my age. At 46, I am no longer in my early forties. At 46, I am clearly middle aged. At 46, I am closer and closer to the age when I could [...]read more

Black and White Limitations

I had dinner with some good friends the other night. During the conversation we started talking about raising children. My friends are struggling through a particular issue that many parents with young children face. My friends are great parents. They want to do the right thing. And they want what [...]read more

Guilt vs. Shame

I said something to a friend this week that I regretted the moment I said it. As soon as the words left my mouth I was wishing I could reach out and grab them back. But they were gone and I couldn’t stop them. I was driving home after the [...]read more

Marathons and Pain Tolerance

My husband, Greg, is an endurance athlete. This hasn’t always been the case. A few years ago he was overweight and out of shape. In the last couple of years he’s worked hard to make significant changes in his life. He  has run marathons, competed in 100 mile mountain bike [...]read more

The Cult of Self Esteem

I was struck by the ideas in this article I found in the Atlantic this week. The article really describes the culture that I grew up in and have now raised my own kids in. My kids have been raised in the culture of self esteem. The culture of Hollywood kid’s [...]read more