Arming with Vulnerability

In conflict, most of us put our defenses up pretty quickly. Our natural instinct is to armor up, react, and protect. Some of us may withdraw, some of us may go on the attack, some of us try to avoid or change the subject. We tend to think conflict is [...]read more

Overwhelming Positivity

John Gottman is an expert on what makes relationships last. Gottman developed “love labs” where he and his team of researchers observed couples’ interactions during daily life. They collected data and followed these couples over time to determine what kept couples together and what tore them apart. One of their [...]read more

Wearing Loose Garments

I grew up in a family of four with one younger brother, Eric. As young kids Eric was my buddy, my friend, my playmate. We spent many hours of time together growing up. He’s also one of the funniest people I know. As adults, I’ve stayed in Baltimore and he [...]read more

Embracing Doubt

I was inspired this week watching the Ted Talk “The Surprising Habits of Original Thinkers” with Adam Grant. Grant is a professor at the Wharton School of Business, University of Pennsylvania. According to Grant there are two kinds of doubt: Self doubt: that’s the “paralyzing, leads you to freeze” doubt. [...]read more

Back to School Changes

I’ve spent the last two weekends playing with my family at Smith Mountain Lake and then Deep Creek Lake. Those were sweet times together. Tomorrow, I’ll say goodbye to my college junior, Josh. A few days later, my youngest kids, Riley and Seth, will go back to school. Lots of [...]read more